5 Ways to Re-Frame Blogging Critics

You may be quaking in your blogging boots at the prospect of being criticized.

For the first time.

For the 100th time.

During lean days I had an intense fear of critics. This fear manifested as both a genuine hate for critics plus I allowed the fear to prevent me from guest posting and blog commenting and opening blogging income streams.

I largely conquered this fear to build a rocking blog and brand.

Follow these 5 tips to re-frame blogging critics.

1: They Fear You Filter

Criticism is fear, manifest.

A critic is predominantly afraid.

Either filter criticism as some person’s fear that they project as criticism – the truth – or take criticism personally – illusion, or, not true – but make no mistakes; your filter determines if you are unfazed or crushed by criticism.

I recall feeling destroyed for weeks by critics nearly 8 years ago, during my newbie blogging days.

Now, almost all critics and their criticisms have zero effect on me. Water off a duck’s butt. Because it is not their criticism, but their fear and pain, screaming out, and their fear has nothing to do with my love and fun.

2: Do Not Fight

Fighting critics is the easiest way to get caught up in their fears. And to acknowledge you agree with critics.

Don’t fight. Don’t take sides. Just beam love at a fearful, hurting person.

If you’re having fun and spreading love you do not criticize. Only unhappy, fear-filled people are critics because the only reason you pick people apart is because you do not love yourself.

Hug these folks. Cyber-wise. No need to engage. Just smile and send ’em love, to both free yourself of their energy and to help them love themselves more, so they can uplift and inspire more folks.

3: Gain Clarity

If someone appears to leave a negative review on one of my eBooks or attempts to skewer one of my blog posts I can simply see the illusion – their fears have nothing to do with me – or I can gain greater clarity in my stance.

Example; if someone tells you your blog is garbage, you either feel unaffected by the criticism because you are having fun, spreading love and helping people, so your blog rocks. Or you get angry at the critic, showing you agree on some level that your blog is garbage. You want to feel those negative feelings about your view of your blog to gain clarity.

This process is unpleasant. We all love to roast critics. Few wish to thank them for giving us clarity.

I am grateful for fearful people who attempt to criticize me. Shows me where I can get clearer, if they annoy me, or where I am fully clear, when I am completely unmoved by a critical point of view.

4: Profit by Solving THEIR Problem

Solve your critic’s problems. Profit.

Example; I’ve had clients who felt unhappy with my work.

Because I knew my work came from an energy of fun and love it was rocking work.

If they clung to some FEAR about my work – manifest as unhappiness or not being satisfied – their chosen FEAR has nothing to do with the love and fun energy I injected into my creation.

I can profit by writing an eBook (seen below) or building an entire course about the topic. Or I can tailor my blog consulting services to address fear-based problems critics suffer through which hold back their blogging growth.

5: Create to Dissolve the Hate

If some critic seems hellbent on destroying me – which is impossible, anyway – and if I lack clarity in my delivery, I may secretly harbor hate toward critics. Most bloggers do, at some times.

Address these human moments by feeling and releasing your hate. Then, create.

Even if you don’t feel the hate it always helps to create something useful, inspired and valuable for other folks. Servants prosper. Servants make money blogging. Servants move their attention from fear to love.

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